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Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Exposing abuse masked by Christian systems.

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Unholy Charade:
Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

by Jeff Crippen

 

A Critical Resource for Leaders, Counselors, and Survivors
Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church by Jeff Crippen serves as a powerful and unflinching guide for pastors, counselors, and anyone seeking to understand the devastating impact of domestic abuse cloaked in religious language. Crippen, a seasoned pastor, sheds light on a chilling reality: abusers often misuse faith and scripture to control and oppress their victims. This book speaks directly to people-helpers, providing clarity on how abuse operates under a spiritual guise and how churches can respond biblically and effectively. For survivors navigating post-trauma healing, Unholy Charade offers validation and reassurance, affirming their worth and God’s heart for justice and restoration.

God’s Precepts and Strategies in Action
Jeff Crippen anchors his insights in Scripture, emphasizing God’s unwavering stance against oppression and injustice. The book powerfully dismantles common misinterpretations of biblical passages that abusers exploit, such as misplaced teachings on submission and forgiveness. Crippen urges leaders to adopt a Christ-like stance that prioritizes protection over appeasement. He highlights passages like Psalm 82:3-4, calling leaders to “Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed.” Through these precepts, Crippen not only highlights God’s heart for justice but equips readers with biblically sound strategies to confront abuse head-on.

 Key Takeaways for Leaders and Counselors
For pastors, counselors, and church leaders, Unholy Charade provides a sobering yet actionable framework for identifying and addressing abuse. Crippen dismantles harmful myths—like the assumption that abuse stops with repentance—and emphasizes the importance of long-term accountability. Leaders will find practical tools for conducting pastoral counseling, confronting abusers, and supporting survivors with empathy and clarity. Importantly, Crippen highlights red flags to watch for when engaging with individuals in abusive situations, preventing further harm under the guise of religious counsel.

Impact on Victims and Survivors
To survivors, Unholy Charade extends an unflinching message of validation and hope. Crippen’s writing acknowledges the gaslighting, spiritual manipulation, and profound betrayal that often accompany abuse within a faith context. By breaking down common tactics used by abusers, survivors gain a clearer understanding of their experiences and a renewed sense of agency. More importantly, Crippen points readers toward God’s unwavering love and justice, offering spiritual and emotional healing rooted in biblical truth.

Conclusion: A Must-Read for Every Church Leader and Counselor
Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church is not merely a book—it’s a wake-up call. For leaders, it’s a practical guide to shepherding with discernment and courage. For survivors, it’s a lifeline of truth and validation. Crippen’s words are both sobering and empowering, calling readers to step into God’s justice with boldness and compassion. Discover more about this transformative resource through our affiliate link.

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