All suffering is loss, but God leaves nothing unused in His plans. We help women see His redemptive thread throughout their circumstances and then look for opportunities to join with God in His transforming work.

Season 5 Episode 3

Domestic Abuse Reconciled
Ann Maree introduces us to Charles, a husband who found his way back to his wife after a journey marked by abuse and redemption. With raw honesty, Charles talks about the abusive behaviors he once displayed, including his struggles with pornography and moments of deep despair that led him to threaten suicide. Through taking responsibility for his actions and seeking forgiveness, Charles witnessed a remarkable healing in his marriage. This episode sheds light on the difficult path of reconciliation in the context of domestic abuse, offering hope and insights for recognizing and addressing abusive behaviors. Join us for an inspiring conversation that highlights the power of grace, accountability, and the rare gift of true restoration in a broken marriage.

Season 5 Episode 2

Domestic Abuse Reconciled
A powerful conversation with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed therapist and trauma specialist, as she sheds light on the challenging journey of reconciliation in abusive marriages—where it happens only 2-10% of the time. With compassion and insight, Tabitha discusses the essential role of humility and healthy shame in the healing process. She underscores the importance of a collaborative approach, involving advocates, counselors, and pastors, to effectively address domestic abuse. Tabitha also bravely challenges common misconceptions about pornography, affirming its destructive impact on relationships, equating it to adultery.

Season 5 Episode 1

Domestic Abuse Reconciled
Ann Maree delves deep into the nuances of Renee's story, highlighting the importance of discerning true repentance and recognizing the profound changes that signify real transformation. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding us that even in the darkest circumstances, God's redemptive power can bring about incredible change.

[H]ub Book Launch

Summer Special
Have you ever wondered how someone’s personal journey through trauma can lead to a powerful message of hope? Meet Kimrey Dillon, our newest team member and the author of Remember my Affliction, a devotional crafted especially for abuse survivors. In a heartfelt conversation with Ann Maree, Kimrey opens up about her experiences of betrayal and suffering, revealing how they inspired her to create this resource. Rooted in the book of Lamentations, the devotional serves as a gentle reminder of God’s comforting presence in the midst of pain. Whether you prefer to reflect alone or with others, this flexible guide allows you to take your time and find solace in God’s promises. Plus, don’t miss the exciting news about our upcoming Festivals of Remembrance series and a sneak peek at the “Storyteller Series” launching on September 10. Are you ready to explore these stories of hope and healing?

'Do No Harm' - Part 2

Summer Special
In this episode, Ann Maree, Patrick, and Julia explore the principle of "do no harm" across the fields of medicine, counseling, and advocacy. Patrick delves into the intricacies of medical decision-making, discussing the balance between paternalism, technical approaches, and the importance of shared decision-making with patients. Julia highlights how shared decision-making is crucial in counseling, especially when working with vulnerable clients, and underscores the significance of humility and self-awareness in understanding power dynamics. Ann Maree reflects on the vital role lay counselors play in supporting professional therapists, emphasizing the need for careful language and encouragement. The episode wraps up with a preview of the upcoming season, which will feature a powerful story of reconciliation after domestic abuse.

Books mentioned:

When Helping Hurts: When Helping Hurts: How to Alleviate Poverty Without Hurting the Poor . . . and Yourself
by Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert

Restoring the Shattered Self: A Christian Counselor’s Guide to Complex Trauma (Christian Association for Psychological Studies Books)
by Heather Davediuk Gingrich 

 

'Do No Harm' - Part 1

Summer Special
In this episode, Ann Maree sits down with Julia Fillnow, a licensed counselor with expertise in trauma, abuse, and addiction, and her husband, Patrick Fillnow, a physician and church elder. Together, they explore the vital intersection of faith and mental health, advocating for a collaborative approach between biblical and clinical counseling. Julia delves into the significance of understanding human behavior through psychology and the necessity of precise diagnosis in clinical settings. Patrick brings his medical perspective, highlighting the deep connection between physical and mental health. They also candidly discuss the strengths and limitations of their professions, emphasizing the role of God, the importance of humility, and the pursuit of comprehensive care.

Books mentioned:

Restoring the Shattered Self: A Christian Counselor’s Guide to Complex Trauma by Heather Davediuk Gingrich

DeMystifying Evil by Ingrid Faro

Ann Maree’s Substack

PCA GA - Part 2

Summer Special
Part 2 of PCA GA, "So What?" Join the conversation with Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott (The Psycho-Theologian) as we further discuss the happenings, nuances, and responses to last week’s PCA General Assembly. We will also explore the questions, hopes, and wisdom as we move forward. An insider’s look into the 'business' of GA.

PCA GA - Part 1

Summer Special
What does the PCA General Assembly mean to us as women? Are we safe in the denomination? Tune in for this special Safe to Hope podcast featuring Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott. Hear how they heard and experienced the denomination’s “business” last week and what this may mean for women.

Season 4 Episode 6

Foster Care Families
With Darby Strickland, author and biblical counselor, and Jill Butler, biblical counselor and instructor. Two Expert Contributors speak from a counselor’s perspective, they describe trauma experienced by the children in the foster and adoption systems and how the church can come alongside to offer support. And Jill tells about the trauma she experienced as a child in an adoptive family and how the Lord ministered to her along the way.

Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.

Click here for H Institute’s Theology of Story

Here’s info about Darby Strickland

Here’s info about Jill Butler

Books about foster care: Foster the Family and Reframing Foster Care

Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don’t live in NC upstreamcollab.org

If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups.

Season 4 Episode 5

Foster Care Families
Caroline wraps up her story as a foster mom by relating how God continues to meet her family’s needs both physically and spiritually. She also explains how pastors, elders and churches can improve their sensitivity about serving well in the area of trauma.

Visit your county’s department of social services website for foster parent info.

Course: [H] Institute’s Theology of Story One

Books:

Meet Jill Butler

Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don’t live in NC upstreamcollab.org

If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups.

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Looking Forward
  • Season 5 podcast – Domestic Abuse Reconciled
  • Remember my Affliction Advent devotional shop and podcast
  • Theology of Story II: Your Conscience Matters course
  • Remember Bible Study
  • Documenting resource for counselors