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Season 6 Episode 3
Bearing Witness
This week on Safe to Hope, we talk about the process of storytelling, self-care, and grief, and why survivors need time, patience, and space to make sense of what they’ve been through. Carya shares how putting words to her story changed how she saw it, but also how she wrestles with grief and the need for lament. Together, we explore why survivors often feel alone in their experiences and how we, as listeners, can create a safe place for healing—without rushing to fix, minimize, or explain away the pain.
We also talk about Jesus in suffering—how He is strong yet gentle, never hurried, never harsh, and always present. If you’ve ever struggled to sit with hard truths, hold space for grief, or find hope after deep pain, this conversation is for you. Tune in and walk with us in the land of the living.
Season 1 Significance of Story
Season 6 Introduction (Episode 1)
Season 6 Jesus is My Captain
Dr Jim Wilder Resources:
- Thrive conference. https://thrivetoday.org/
- The Red Dragon Cast Down: A Redemptive Approach to the Occult and Satanism
- Pandora Problem: Facing Narcissism in Leaders & Ourselves
- The Other Half of Church: Christian Community, Brain Science, and Overcoming Spiritual Stagnation
- Escaping Enemy Mode: How Our Brains Unit and Divide Us
Informational Resources:
- Lalich Center on Cults and Coercion:
https://www.lalichcenter.org/ - RAINN – Informational Support for sexual abuse survivors:
rainn.org - Escaping High-Control Religious Groups
https://www.christianitytoday.com/2023/12/high-control-religious-groups-counseling-church/ - On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg
Self-Care Resources:
- Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and Handouts:
https://christiantraumahealingnetwork.org/resources/tools-and-handouts/ - Self-Regulation for Daily Triggers:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0 - The Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous System – Relaxed Vigilance vs. Hypervigilance:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0&t=5s
Season 6 Episode 2
Bearing Witness
In this episode of Safe to Hope, we meet Carya, our storyteller for Season 6. Instead of starting at the beginning of her story, we begin with where she has landed—a place of deep wrestling, but also profound hope. Through the lens of Jesus is My Captain, Carya shares the mystery of suffering, the presence of Christ in unimaginable pain, and the reality that following Him is not always safe, but it is good. Her words are a testament to the severe mercy of God, who calls us not to escape suffering, but to walk with Him through it.
Season 6 Introduction (Episode 1)
Informational Resources:
- Lalich Center on Cults and Coercion:
https://www.lalichcenter.org/ - RAINN – Informational Support for sexual abuse survivors:
rainn.org - Escaping High-Control Religious Groups
https://www.christianitytoday.com/2023/12/high-control-religious-groups-counseling-church/ - On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane Langberg
Self-Care Resources:
- Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and Handouts:
https://christiantraumahealingnetwork.org/resources/tools-and-handouts/ - Self-Regulation for Daily Triggers:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0 - The Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous System – Relaxed Vigilance vs. Hypervigilance:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0&t=5s
Season 6 Episode 1
Bearing Witness
She thought she knew God. Then suffering came—relentless, overwhelming, and dark. In this episode of Safe to Hope, Dr. Ingrid Faro shares her journey of wrestling with evil, questioning God, and discovering a faith stronger than suffering. As we begin a season filled with hard yet necessary conversations, Dr. Faro helps us lay a foundation for understanding evil—because without that framework, we cannot fully grasp the hope that follows.
Dr. Ingrid Faro
- Website: https://www.ingridfaro.com/
- Evil in Genesis: A Contextual Analysis of Hebrew Lexemes for Evil in the Book of Genesis
- Demystifying Evil: Demystifying Evil: A Biblical and Personal Exploration
- Redeeming Eden: How Women in the Bible Advance the Story of Salvation (not yet released)
- Honest Answers: Exploring God Questions with Your Tween co-authored with Janelle Alberts
Other mentions:
- Evil and the Justice of God by N.T. Wright
- The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom
Season 5 Episode 6
Domestic Abuse Reconciled
In the powerful conclusion to our series on reconciled relationships, Ann Maree invites counselor Greg Wilson and biblical counselor Darby Strickland to discuss the difficult path of healing from domestic abuse. Greg and Darby offer deep insights into recognizing God’s presence amid suffering, stressing the need for patience and the priority of addressing an abuser’s behavior before focusing on the victim’s response. They unpack the impact of trauma and urge churches to stand by victims, even when human support falls short. This conversation is a compelling reminder of God’s unwavering work, even in our brokenness.
- Is It Abuse?: A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims by Darby A. Strickland
- Something Scary Happened by Darby A. Strickland
- Something Sad Happened by Darby A. Strickland
- When Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson
- Greg Wilson’s practice Soul Care Associates
- Christian Trauma Healing Network
- Called to Peace (Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches.)
- ChrisMoles.orgMen of Peace program
- PeaceWorks University is Chris Moles training arm
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